I had an excellent session with my business coach last week.
I had lost my way a little. The truth is I had lost my way a lot and needed the guiding hand of someone who would ask the right questions and challenge me.
I needed to rethink what I was about so I could be clear on everything I did to help you, the people who I want to help.
And now I am excited and reinvigorated about my purpose.
It is my wish to inspire and educate you to see that ageing is OK.
Ageing Is OK.
That getting older is the better option of the two choices and should be celebrated with great enthusiasm.
And that whether we find ourselves passed over for a younger model, ignored because we have entered the age of invisibility or had a stark reminder that we may lack relevance, it is all shit we can move through and grow.
Once upon a time at 57, I would be near the end of my life if not already dead.
I am so grateful to be living in a time when I have the opportunity to live to a ‘ripe old age’ and know that I still have so much to give, to do and to experience. And in the knowledge that midlife is just that – the middle of my life.
What do I invite you to consider so that you stride into midlife without fear, without restriction and with hope and excitement?
Hopefully, the following will relate to you.
- Focus on your future. Your past has been and gone, and you do have a choice around what you take forward with you. Every moment we allow the past to infect our present are moments we cannot get back. No matter what we do. We clean out our wardrobes, however, fail to do the same for our souls.
- With that in mind, deal with stuff so that peace can make an entrance into your psyche. Every story you have of wrongdoing, of hurt, of disappointment, does not need to define who you are and how you view the world.
- Build a new story. In the words of Mary Oliver – what is it you want to do with this wild and precious life? You still have time, and the thought of a future you have control of is a future you will feel inspired to build.
- Say yes – say yes to all those things that fear prevented you from doing. The things that kept you locked in a fear-based narrative, holding you back. Be inspired by those who stride on through it all.
- Cherish each wrinkle and ‘fine line’ for they are what carry the story of who you truly are. You could spend a fortune on trying to hide the years gone before; however, there is something magnificent about a face that has the knowing look of experience. They are faces to trust.
- Look after yourself. We have all heard the rhetoric around ageing well, and so much of it is easy to do. Exercise regularly, eat well most of the time, love with all your heart and live with all your might. It is all available to every one of us.
- Speaking of love, love those who deserve to be loved, and even more, those that you think don’t. For when love radiates from our hearts, forgiveness finds somewhere to reside. Somewhere soft, gracious and gentle.
- Surround yourself with the things that move you. Listen to the music you dance to; watch the movies you cry to and go to the places that your soul longs to go.
- And most of all, understand it is about you. Not matter who you have or bring into your life, it is not their role to rescue you, to fulfil you or to make you happy. That is your work, and if you take this one thing, this one point, then you will stride into midlife.
When you finally take responsibility for you and your dreams, then the mundane will evaporate into the light of magnificence.