living a delicious and magnificent mid-life...
“But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.” Carl Jung
am wary of the number of articles out there that have titles such as ‘Seven things successful people do in the mornings’ or ‘The three most important things to do if you want success’.
While sometimes I think they add value and I have gleaned information from them myself, I do wonder if they add to the sense that we are not quite doing what it takes, have what it takes, or, are equipped with the right stuff, to be ‘successful’.
Meanwhile trying to identify and fix that part of ourselves that forever chases the dream and forever seems to fall short.
It has happened to me a couple of times, so I know the warning signs well.
The first occasion took me by surprise.
Actually, both occasions took me by surprise.
A situation that arose which ended in someone packing a sad, spitting venom my way while hissing ‘is there nothing you can’t f—-n do’.
I was stunned because I have never thought of myself as being so talented that I would conjure up such jealousy in someone. And this blow-up happened over a cake!
Yes, you read correctly – a cake.
I remember a beautiful line from ‘Fried Green Tomatoes’.
‘I am too old to be young and too young to be old. ‘
Welcome to mid-life.
Our young years are well behind us on the path that is life, and we are nowhere near ready to hang up our boots and enter into the final phase.
‘Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.’ Rumi.
It is a saying I love. Its beauty moves me every time I read it.
Why?
Because it speaks of a safe place where great conversations occur.
Last week I wrote about our strong sense of not being enough. This week I take that a step further and discuss that other strong sense we battle with – our sense of failure.